How To Start Communicating Effectively


If there is one thing that you need to master in this life, it is the ability to communicate clearly and effectively to the people around you. Take note that your failure to communicate well can give rise to several issues or conflicts. According to a recent study on personal relationships, one of the most common sources of fights among individuals is miscommunication. Unfortunately, one person may not easily understand what the other means because of some communication barriers. Conversely, you may also fail to convey your true intentions to others because you do not know how to speak up.

Jennifer J. Uhrlass, LMFT strongly believes that blame won’t get you anywhere. “Whether you are struggling to navigate a difficult situation together or daily arguments have become the norm, everyone can benefit from improved communication.”

For this reason, we have decided to come up with an article that can provide our readers with some techniques or strategies that can be used in communicating effectively. Our primary objective is to help you become better when it comes to getting in touch with others and communicating with them in the best way possible. Make sure to familiarize yourself with these:


Think Clearly Before Speaking


As much as possible, make it a habit to think clearly before you will utter words from your mouth. Keep in mind that the moment you speak up, you can never take back those words again. As such, if you are too tactless when it comes to communicating, you may end up hurting your friends or family members. At the same time, you may also offend them with your thoughtless comments or feedback. Because of this, you have to be careful as you try to connect with them. Think your words over and over again before speaking what’s on your mind.

“Diplomacy is a skill that is well worth learning. The need of diplomacy isn’t felt just in international relations; it’s also highly valuable in “domestic relations,” including your own personal nearest and dearest relationships, as well.” – Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

Choose The Right Timing


Another tip that you must always remember is the significance of choosing the perfect timing for communicating with those surrounding you. If you want to convey or send a message to someone, make sure to check if the circumstances at the moment are excellent for a conversation. For example, if you are going to give constructive criticism to the work of your friend, you have to see to it that both of you are not in a public place. The right thing to do is to find alone time together before talking to her.


Focus When You Speak


Are you the kind of individual who gets distracted easily? Do you find it hard to sustain your focus or interest in a particular topic? If yes, then you have to exert more effort into controlling these negative tendencies. What you must do is to engage in activities that can help you increase your ability to focus on certain things. Otherwise, you will keep on experiencing distractions along the way, and it can soon have an adverse effect on the relationship you have to the people surrounding you. Take note that the other person will surely appreciate it if he can sense that you are giving him the right amount of attention when you are speaking. On the contrary, if he can feel that your mind is off to a different place while you are conversing, then he may begin to dislike you for being disrespectful.

Talking about effective communication skills for women, Cheryl Sexton, LMFT says, “I would advise women not to use qualifiers or passive speech to make their position seem smaller or less than someone else’s position.”