I hope I can be like most wives who tell heart-melting stories about their husbands. I know it’s not right, but I do get envious whenever I watch romantic movies, and I ask myself, “Does a man like that really exist?” I don’t want to sound cynical, but at the age of 31, I already had a fair share of this cruel world.
The generation nowadays has come up with so many ways to enjoy life. The technology has somehow taught us that there is more to life than getting married and raising a family. In some ways, it is a dream to have no responsibility to anyone but yourself. The thought of living young and free is becoming popular that a lot of people choose to stay unattached. But did you know that there is a fear of commitment? It is called gamophobia.
“Simply put, a phobia is an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something … Usually somewhere in their childhood they associated this ‘thing’ with fear, or had a bad experience.” – Nicole Martinez, PsyD.
Living in fear is not living at all. It limits all the things we can do. Imagine having acrophobia or the fear of heights, aerophobia or the fear of airplanes, claustrophobia or the fear of enclosed spaces. These are some of the common phobias affecting a large number of Americans. These phobias could mean a person will always have trouble going to high places, riding an airplane, or riding an elevator. Nowadays, they could signify a lot of inconvenience as the world we live in now is innovative and full of these things. When you are in the corporate world, it is hard to avoid high places, airplanes, and elevators.
Do people always ask you why you’re still not married? Does the thought of having to spend your life with someone scare you? You might have a fear of commitment – but why do you fear it? There is a phobia related to this which is called gamophobia. It is not necessarily the fear of commitment but fear of marriage.